Another Date

This week was funny on Match. After feeling frustrated with the whole match experience I had so far...which was very limited... I decided since I was not renewing my subscription I would just go in and finally take a look around for myself to see what was out there. I will admit I am not good at judging people from a photo. And some of the photos that are posted I had to wonder what the guy was thinking. I mean really. REALLY bad pictures. Anyway...I looked at over 2000 pics. Winked at maybe 5. I expanded my radius a few miles to try to include a few more people to choose from. I came across a good looking guy and read his profile. It was different from the others. It wasn't all about what a nice guy he was...or how he was looking for his soul mate. It was hilarious. And short. He said he went on a date and it seemed to go well as it ended with a kiss...which was pretty hot...and then her bridge fell on to his tongue. He was back looking to get the taste out of his mouth.

That is hilarious so I thought WTF. I'm going to email this guy. All I said was "LMAO Your profile is hilarious!"

He wrote back. "Glad to amuse"

We had a date last night. No blogger spies were in attendance. It was fun.

Anyway.. Saturday night I went out with a girlfriend. This match guy knew I was going out and asked if I was going to be trolling for guys. I said no..I'm going out to have a nice dinner with my friend.

Trolling never crossed my mind. I have actually never trolled for guys in my life. That is probably why I don't like Match. It's like trolling for guys. Yuck!

The guy that received an email from me and then Kim the next day emailed back. He said something like "Are things a bit more settled for you now......"

My response.. Well, I don't think things are totally settled yet as I seem to have emailed you almost the same thing twice!! So sorry!

Match subscription coming to an end

Me again. My subscription to Match expires on Feb 4. I will not be renewing. In the meantime I have pretty much gone in and responded to any emails that had not been responded to by The Expert. If you know me..you know I have no tact and pretty much say whatever comes to mind.

So..to the young 29 year old lawyer....

Thanks for the wink. You're a great looking guy. I myself am looking for a great friend/lover. Done with the kids thing though so I don't fit into what you seem to be looking for. Good luck though :)

Christie

And there was another guy who I was not attracted to....who's favorite thing is hiking. But I appreciate that he emailed me...so I responded.

Not into hiking at all.. but thanks for the email! Have a good year.

Christie

OK One guy was just too creepy to respond to....but besides him...I feel like I should be courteous with a reply.

Sooo...I have about 2 weeks to make a connection. Of course I have to have a date first!!

Lack of Communication :(

Well...Obviously we haven't been going on any dates...as there are no new blogs! I finally finished moving and my older son is back to college. Time to concentrate on this "project" again. Kim has been super busy herself..so it's been hard for her to stay on top of the matching/emailing/winking. I decided to go in and finally take a look around. Up until now I have really only looked at who Kim picked for me. It was a long weekend and some bad weather..so I decided..what the heck. I went into the search section. Up came my potential matches. I must have filled out the form wrong. REALLY??? Those are my potential matches??? I think not! Then I clicked on the "opposites" button. How interesting. Why do they look more like a match to me than the ones that were suppose to match?? I favorited a few so Kim would know who to target. She "Winked"for me... I really could have done that myself but that's not how we set up our little rules. Anyway...Still the weekend and I take another search through potential matches. Hmmm. There's a handsome chap and he lives in the next town. He's conveniently located..and I have no plans for the weekend. I decide..screw the rules. I'm winking at this guy myself! There... done! He emails me the next day and it was a very nice normal sounding guy! Yaaay! Hope Kim responds.... 2 days later...nothing! ok this guy is gonna think I'm rude! And my weekend and available time is coming to an end. I am justifying to myself why I should break the rules and email him myself. I conclude that A) Kim says it's hard for her to get on the computer during the weekends and B) I should just handle these Westchester guys myself. Let's face it. Is the team going to schlep out here to watch my date. I don't think so! So..I email him back.

Hey ______-
Just getting back to a schedule now after moving, having my older son back to college, and the music industry starting up again. (It always shuts down from Christmas to New Years)

I'm fairly new to Match. A friend told me to give it a try but I have to say I think it's pretty weird! How are you liking it?

Christie

Ok...That was easy enough.

That was yesterday. MLK day. Now from my view on match.com it shows if you have emailed someone or not. WELL...apparently Kim did not see that . So then TODAY she emailed him again...pretending of course to be me. Here is what I sounded like today (via Kim)

Hi ______,

Nice to meet you. Yes, that is not too far. I do have a busy schedule, but it's not as bad as I make it out to sound. And now that the holidays are over and my son is back to school, it's almost normal. I have two sons, one in college and one in high school. I work in music which is interesting, stressful, fun, and drives me crazy as well. :) What about you? How's this slushy Tuesday going?

Enjoy,
Christie

This guy is going to think I'm Sybil or something! 2 letters in 2 days...with 2 different voices. Crap!

I have just declared that I should handle the Westchester guys myself. IF I continue with this crazy project at all!!

New Year...means more dates!

I took some time off for the holidays and I was completely out of the loop as the expert here.   However, I logged in for Mr and Miss this week and feeling confident that we will have some exciting dates ahead.   I thought it was going to be completely overwhelming with my work schedule, life, and such.  But, I am feeling good, cleaned out some of the dust in their inboxes and chatted with what seems to be normal dating folks.   I know, I say normal a lot!  We also need a little hotness in the new year.  We want sparks people!  We want some making out!  And, if we are lucky, maybe some love! 

Keep tuning in!

XO

Happy New Year!

Just checking in!

We've all been super busy with the holidays..families.. etc. Next week we should be out and dating again. Until then.. :)

FIrst Date...An hour of nothing...kind of

So, my first date came and went. There was no awkwardness, there was no lack of conversation, and unfortunately there was no spark. None. So while an hour long conversation can be enlightening and an overall positive experience, friendship isn't really my focus is it? I know it was my first date and well basically my first date overall without using conventional means, I started to think about whether this method of dating could ever really be effective for me personally. I mean my date was a very nice, good looking girl, who seemed like someone from a good family and headed down a great career path, but her demeanor was very business like. This is what was throwing me off. My personality is whether I'm on a date, in church, or in the most uncomfortable elevator ride of all time, pretty jovial and engaging. I strike up conversations with strangers almost daily. So as the date began, I was engaging. She was studying, analyzing, and processing which in retrospect and with the help of Miss Matched became apparent that she was deciding if i was a right fit, before she was deciding if she was even having a good time.

Maybe the venue was not as conducive for a loose atmosphere (1pm on a Sunday was sheerly out of scheduling conflicts, remember we are coordinating my schedule and observer, expert, and Miss Matched) but again if you are concerned about the venue then you aren't letting your mind and heart be open for this journey anyway then right? Isn't that what you are paying 39.99 a month for? Either way I thought I should leave the option open for a follow-up "night time" date and we parted ways. Excited to go on more dates and meet more people. Like I said in my very first post, every date that doesn't turn into "The Notebook" is not a failure, but just another learning experience providing the tools to carry forward that you will need when that special someone does turn out to be a "match". -Mr. Matched

Pete's first date!

I finally got to be an observer! I cancelled my paddle tennis match when I got word that Pete was going to have his first Match date. I headed down to the city to grab a good viewing table. Jojo was going to meet me there...and alas.. Kim had something come up last minute so couldn't make it. The date was going to take place in a coffee shop around Union Square. I hit a little traffic but was determined to make it on time. Then I got a text from Pete who went early himself.. probably first date jitters (kidding) saying the coffee shop was small and packed...so go to the place right next door. Ok. No problem! But I wanted to see the reactions when they first met..which of course I missed. In the meantime, I go into this cute little vegan place and explain to the hostess that I am here to observe my friend on a date and could he have that table by the window while I sit at this one. She looked at me like I was a little weird but said no problem.

So I'm sitting and waiting for both Pete/date AND Jojo... thinking..damn... no one is here. I not only skipped my paddle tennis game but now I'm missing the Giants/Eagles...which I had a bet on and let's just say...yeah.. I don't want to talk about that! (Damn you Giants).

Ah....finally Pete and his date walk in. He sees me...which was hard not to do as I was sitting staring directly at their table. They sit and she orders a coffee. ( I on the other hand ...as only to kill time...ordered a giant plate of pancakes...)

Pete is looking comfortable. He leans towards her when he speaks. She looked like she was taking in everything he was saying. I could see her storing all the information in her brain. Thinking...calculating. Is this the guy for me??? There was no lack of conversation from where I was sitting although it definitely seemed like an information gathering session rather than a good time. Her body language was somewhat guarded, unlike Pete's. It was, from what I heard her say, her first date on Match as well. It could be that she appeared guarded only because I think it's a little scary meeting a strange guy. That being said....maybe she had her "team" near as well. Pete got up and went to the men's room. She immediately got on her phone. I get a text from Pete (from the men's room) saying he will walk her out and then come back and meet me to do an after date video blog. Hmmm.. Where is Jojo?? I give her a call. She is trying to park. I tell her to hurry as it looks like the date is coming to an end. Pete comes back and the Date tells him she has to go. She is meeting someone. They walk out.

Jojo finally gets to the cafe and comes in with a big flustered smile. She had just seen Pete and date walking on the street. That was unexpected! It took both Jojo and Pete by surprise, enough so that Pete dropped his phone! Pete finally came back in to the cafe. We ordered more food and did a video blog which hopefully you will see soon. It was a good first date..but I will let Pete tell you more!

On a side note... The hostess came over and admitted that she didn't understand what I was doing originally. She didn't know that Pete knew I was watching them and just thought I was a creepy stalker. Lovely!